Can I Save my Relationship--a How to Guide

Good times in a relationship seem to fly by, and can never last long enough. The bad times linger on us, as though they are never going to go away. When you truly love someone it's worth fighting for, and with work your relationship can return to what it once was. If you're asking yourself, "Can I save my relationship?" The answer is yes, and I can help you.

The beauty of saving a relationship is in knowing that it can become better than it was before. If you can survive the hard times it will make both of you stronger, as a couple in the future. Regardless of what events lead to the emotional detachment, or even splitting up that has brought you to this point, it can be resolved.

Relationships go sour for a reason and the onslaught of fighting and distance growing between two people is not healthy. But in order to fix the relationship, first you must fix yourself. Accept what's happening in your life, that there is a problem and make a decision to fix it. Start with taking a break, from the fighting and from each other if necessary. Taking a breather is good because it allows both of you to settle down, and think about your actions.

This is probably the time when you will become depressed, if you haven't already. The easiest way to pull yourself out of depression is to do something positive in your life. Positive changes are great for your self-esteem and for your future relationships, so get on it! Starting out small makes a big difference so try exercising, better eating habits, and focusing on fun. If you can't get past overwhelming feelings, write them down. Putting bad feelings on paper helps to get them off your mind. Avoid desperation at all costs. While you're in the process of sorting yourself out don't seek out your lover (or ex-lover) and drive them insane. Forty-five voicemails a day isn't going to make anybody miss you. Leave some space for mystery. When you do talk to your ex only bring up positive things, show the good changes you've made in your life. Don't bring up any conversation about the relationship, as it's important to show that you can live without that person.

By the time you're ready to start working on your relationship again you've already made yourself into a better person. This makes you desirable, and your boost in self-confidence and a more positive attitude is going to make someone want you even more! Keep dates low-key, such as lunches, coffee, or a fun activity that you both enjoy. Stay relaxed as this removes pressure from the situation, which allows the two of you to have fun and reconnect.

Look, I know exactly how you are feeling right now… I've been there before, and have watched several of my friends self destruct right in front of my eyes because of an ugly break up. But it doesn't have to be that way, and you have the opportunity to fix yourself and your relationship.

If you are serious about fixing your relationship I have something that will help you. This made a world of difference for me when I was heartbroken, and this video only takes a few minutes to watch. You're no longer going to be asking yourself, "Can I save my relationship?" by H.W. Storm